Beyond Discipline: Help Your Child WANT to Cooperate Toolkit
$69.00
Would you like to try a more gentle form of discipline but you aren't sure how? Parents are often disbelieving when they hear that there are families who never spank, use timeouts, or even yell -- and their kids are well-behaved.
Here's how you can transition to become one of those families! This Self-Paced Parenting Toolkit will teach you how to move beyond threats and punishment and into connection.
Ready to begin? This comprehensive self-paced Toolkit gives you everything you need to create lasting change!
Your Complete Toolkit includes:
- Audio with Transcript 10 Secrets of Setting Effective Limits
- Workbook Beyond Discipline(150 pages)
- Cheatsheet Help Your Child WANT To Cooperate
- Cheatsheet Alternatives to Punishment
- Audio with Transcript Setting Limits Solutions
“The most helpful part was learning what to do when my child pushes back or doesn’t take a limit well. He still gets upset sometimes, but I don’t lose it anymore. That’s made a big difference in our home.”
- Lauren P
"I didn’t believe this approach would work for us. I kept thinking, Sure, maybe for calmer kids, but probably not for mine. Learning how to set limits with empathy instead of threats completely changed how my child responds to me. I’m really glad we gave it a try."
- Kristen M.
Ready to guide your child toward cooperation without threats or punishment?
Help Your Child Want to Cooperate
Children cooperate much more easily when they feel understood and connected.
When we use threats and punishment, kids' brains shift into defense. But when they feel safe, seen, and connected, the part of the brain responsible for self-control and problem-solving comes back online.
That's why connection and empathic limits work so powerfully. They help children develop the internal motivation to do the right thing.
STEP ONE
Download the "Beyond Discipline" E-Workbook.
In this 150 page e-workbook, you'll develop your own plan to help your child WANT to cooperate, without yelling, threats, bribes or punishment. To get started, download this PDF, and work your way through this e-book a little bit at a time. Change happens in small shifts!
STEP TWO
Listen to 10 Secrets of Setting Effective Limits — Beyond Discipline Part 1 (Audio).
This audio will teach you how to set empathic limits with a firm and kind tone. Kids who feel understood are much more likely to cooperate with us. In this 55 minute audio, Dr. Laura shares 10 secrets of setting limits that guide your child and help them learn self-discipline, while keeping them connected and cooperative — without you ever having to punish.
You'll learn:
- The three steps of setting effective limits
- How to handle it when a child is ignoring you or tuning you out
- How to help children learn with reflection and repair instead of punishment
- Your secret weapon in getting children to cooperate (and it never involves threats!)
- What to do when your child tests your limits
STEP THREE
Listen to Setting Limits Solutions — Beyond Discipline Part 2 (Audio)
In this audio, Setting Limits Solutions, Dr. Laura Markham applies her ten secrets of setting limits to the most common challenges parents encounter. You'll hear her tone of voice and learn the words that are most effective in helping children cooperate. You also get a full hour and a half of real-life examples, so you'll find plenty of situations you recognize.
You'll learn:
- What to do when your child tests or ignores your limits
- How to handle it when a child is ignoring you or tuning you out
- How to help children learn with reflection and repair instead of punishment
- Your secret weapon in getting children to cooperate (without threats!)
- What to do when your child tests your limits
STEP FOUR
Setting Limits Printable
Download and post this printable to remind you about the three steps of setting limits that invite cooperation and teach repair. The three steps are:
- Acknowledge your child's perspective, feelings and wants
- Set the limit with empathy
- Tell your child what they CAN do
STEP FIVE
Alternatives to Engage Cooperation Printable
You know those moments when you're running out of patience and you're too upset to think of anything besides threatening consequences?
Here's your printable of Alternatives to Engage Cooperation. Keep it handy for those tough moments!
This Toolkit Is For You If:
- You want your child to cooperate without yelling, threats, bribes, or punishment.
- You’ve tried consequences or timeouts, but they create more power struggles.
- You want to set clear limits without damaging your connection with your child.
- You want practical language and strategies for when your child ignores you or melts down.
- You believe discipline should teach self-discipline, not just force compliance.
- You’re ready to parent with more calm and confidence, even in the hard moments.
Changes You'll Begin to See:
- Children who cooperate because they feel understood and respected
- Fewer power struggles — and limits that actually work
- A child developing real self-discipline, not just fear of consequences
- More connection and trust between you and your child
- A calmer home where everyone feels more respected
- The deep satisfaction of seeing your child choose to do the right thing because it feels right to them.
“I used to think discipline meant my kid had to really feel the consequence to learn. This helped me see that when kids feel threatened, they don’t actually learn anything. Once I changed how I handled limits, things got easier. I’m still figuring it out, but it’s definitely working.”
- Steven C.
“Before, I just wanted to NOT do what my own parents did for discipline, so I was too permissive--and that wasn't good for anyone. But this toolkit helped me see that I can set limits in a healthy way and my kids behave better and I get less frustrated.”
- Alyssa S.
“My son is neurodivergent so I wasn't sure this would work for him. But I am so glad I went ahead and gave it a try. Our whole way of handling his behavior has changed, and I can see that he is much happier now and cooperates better.”
- Mira T.
Science-Based Parenting You Can Trust
Dr. Laura Markham trained as a clinical psychologist at Columbia University — and she’s also a mom who understands how hard parenting can be in the real world. She translates neuroscience and child development research into practical guidance parents can use in the heat of the moment — staying calm, building deep connection, and setting loving limits that kids actually respect.
She is the author of three bestselling books with more than 300,000 copies sold in English and editions published in over 27 languages worldwide. Over 115,000 families receive her weekly guidance. She's known for combining solid science with real-life warmth, to help families reduce conflict, strengthen relationships, and raise emotionally intelligent, resilient children.
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