It’s easy to feel frustrated when our kids fight—especially when we think they should already know how to get along.

But conflict is how they learn. Each time you guide them with calm, empathy, and clear limits, you’re teaching skills they’ll use for life.

You won’t do it perfectly. But every time you choose connection over control, you’re helping them feel safer—with each other and with you. That safety reduces rivalry and builds real cooperation.

Sibling squabbles are often when we lose our patience. But snapping doesn’t teach the skills they need. Instead, pause. Take a breath. Acknowledge their perspective. Set your limit. Redirect.

You won’t always pull it off. But when you do, you’re strengthening their emotional intelligence—and creating less drama and more love at home.

Because this isn’t just about peace today. You’re shaping how your children will love—for life.

STEP ONE

What Causes Sibling Rivalry? (Video & Audio with Transcript)

You'll learn:

• What exactly IS sibling rivalry?
• The five main causes of sibling rivalry.
• The many ways that parents can support siblings to have a better relationship!

STEP TWO

Download the Siblings 101 E-book

In this 31-page guide, you’ll discover practical, research-based tools to help your children get along, reduce sibling fighting, and build a strong, lasting bond. This isn’t about quick fixes or choosing sides—it’s about helping your children develop lifelong skills like empathy, communication, and problem-solving, with your calm, confident support.

Start by downloading your PDF and exploring one small section at a time. Whether you’re reading during naptime or before bed, even a few minutes a day can begin to shift the dynamic in your home.

Every small step you take creates more peace—and more connection.

STEP THREE

How Parents Can Reduce Sibling Rivalry (Video & Audio with Transcript)

Watch this video (or listen to the audio), where Dr. Laura shares her six research-based secrets to prevent and heal sibling rivalry.

You'll learn how to:

• Strengthen and sweeten your relationship with each child.
• Demonstrate how to work out conflict.
• Teach conflict resolution skills.
• Emotion Coach - even while limiting behavior
• Develop a family culture of kindness and respect.
• Facilitate your kids having fun together.

STEP FOUR

Healing Sibling Resentment (Video & Audio with Transcript)

Often, an oldest child resents a younger child. They make spiteful remarks, are super competitive, and seem on some level to have never forgiven the younger child for being born. That's because they haven't! These children had big feelings when their sibling was born, and never got the help they needed to work through them. But it isn't too late! In this video, Dr. Laura takes you step by step to melt that "chip on the shoulder" and increase positive sibling interactions, so that affection has a chance to grow.

• Empathize with your child to help them heal the old hurt and scared feelings.
• Meet your child's needs that weren't fully met when the sibling was born.
• Uphold standards of respect and civility in your family.
• Nurture the sibling bond.

STEP FIVE

Healing Entrenched Sibling Resentment (Printable)

Download and post this visual reminder to guide you through the process of healing deep-rooted sibling resentment, so you can support your children to build a deeper, more affectionate, relationship. Post this printable on your fridge, clipboard, or parenting journal—it’s a powerful cue to shift from frustration to healing, even in the middle of a tough moment.

This printable outlines the steps to:

• Validate your older child's deep-rooted feelings of fear and jealousy.
• Meet the needs of your child that were not met when the new baby was born.
• Set clear limits to protect your younger child from the older child's feelings.
• Help your children to build a sweeter, stronger connection.

STEP SIX

Intervening In a Sibling Fight (Video & Audio with Transcript)

Watch this video (or listen to the audio), where Dr. Laura teaches you how to intervene in a sibling fight so that both kids feel heard, and learn the skills to work things out in a healthy way -- so that soon, you won't have to intervene!

You'll learn how to:

• Let go of deciding who is right or wrong.
• Connect with each child, and acknowledge that they're upset about something that is real to them.
• Coach each child to express their needs and wants without attacking their sibling.
• Restate your house rules and uphold your standards of civil interaction.

STEP SEVEN

How To Intervene in a Sibling Fight (Printable)

Download this practical step-by-step printable to remind you of how you can handle sibling fights to reduce tension, strengthen your connection with each child, and teach lasting conflict resolution skills.

Instead of taking sides or assigning blame, you’ll learn how to:

• Stay calm and create emotional safety.
• Help each child feel heard—without escalating the conflict.
• Coach your kids to express their needs respectfully.
• Guide them toward problem-solving and repair.

Keep this guide handy—you’ll find yourself returning to it again and again during those tough parenting moments.